Archive - Your Favorite Self

Why the emotional guidance scale can be harmful

Ranking your emotions is the least helpful thing you can ever do. This is why & what DOES help when you're not feeling your best.

Jul 12

June 2025

How NOT to stop overthinking

Here’s what I have to say to all that shallow advice that ranks SO high on our favorite search engine. Mostly to let you know: It’s not you. There is…

Jun 28

The danger of always trying your hardest

Let's stop this spiral before we lose ourselves completely.

Jun 14

May 2025

When your inner critic is throwing a party

Here are a few perspective shifts & (thought) exercises to empower you, and help you move through this moment with a little more ease and grace.

May 31

About the version of you you’re missing so much it hurts

You’re closer to them than you think.

May 17

March 2025

Here’s a story which I hope makes you feel supported in saying no, too, and maybe even letting yourself enjoy it.

Mar 1

February 2025

Tips for getting out of a slump

Or ... how to stop trying to get out of it and start supporting yourself through it instead. 🙃

Feb 8

January 2025

Build your self-trust with these 3 steps

Let me tell you about the time I left a beer festival early, how that helped me build my self-trust & how you can build yours, too.

Jan 18

Are you worrying about the worst-case scenario? Try this!

Your nervous system can’t differentiate between what happens in your mind and IRL, so in a way, you're already experiencing these horrible storylines…

Jan 4

December 2024

How to create the life you want, but actually

THE question to ask yourself to prevent your desires from staying in the future forever. Plus, a little story about future Shirley with a Beyoncé-like…

Dec 21, 2024

Having a hard day? This is for you!

My 'stop making it worse' practice. 2 practical but gentle steps to help your move through a painful experience (of any kind).

Dec 5, 2024

November 2024

How to become your favorite self

Are you done with striving to be your best, truest and/or highest self? Me too! So let's move the spotlight of our attention to becoming our favorite…

Nov 21, 2024

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